How to Explain ADHD to Those Without it

Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is controversial and misunderstood. Scientists are not in agreement about whether it really exists, what the cause is, how widespread it actually is and if it is truly a neurological condition. It's no wonder that the majority of the public is confused about ADHD. What little most understand about ADHD is that it is a childhood condition experienced by boys, making them unruly and disobedient. These kinds of misconceptions and misunderstandings can make it difficult to explain ADHD to those without it, but there are some strategies that can help.

Instructions

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  Read up on ADHD so that you are aware of the misconceptions and can answer most of the most common questions you are likely to be asked. The more you understand the condition, the more comfortable you will be discussing it. You will also feel less defensive because you will be in control of the facts.

• 2

  Help them to understand the similarities and differences of ADHD behavior with "normal" behavior. ADHD behaviors, in and of themselves, are normal behaviors, but taken to abnormal extremes. Everyone fidgets or has trouble focusing sometimes; ADHD sufferers have trouble with those things all the time.

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  Explain that not everyone with ADHD acts the same. Few people present all of the symptoms to an abnormal degree; most present some and not others. There is no stereotypical ADHD person.

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  Share how ADHD affects how you live and act. You may explain, for example, that your inability to pay attention all the time when someone speaks is not a personal statement about your desire to hear what they have to say. Or that not being able to sit down for a long time and focus does not mean that you are bored.

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  Let them know that you do not choose to act this way and that your ADHD is not some form of excuse. Tell them that things happen despite your best efforts and that while you try to control your symptoms, you are not always successful. Ask them not to judge you on the same level of success as someone who has a normal level of control.

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  Do not argue with anyone about your condition. You will not help in creating understanding. Back off while understanding that this can be tough for a person who does not have ADHD to grasp. Maybe give them some information resources that can help to explain ADHD objectively.

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  Have patience. You may not be able to get through to them the first time, but if you stay calm and positive you will see at least some success.