How to Care for an Autistic Child

Caring for an autistic child can be tiring, difficult, and draining. However, it can also be fulfilling and rewarding. Just as there is no rule-book for parenting, there is no how-to guide on caring for a child with autism. Whether you are a parent, teacher, sitter, or someone who spends time with someone who has autism, no matter the severity, it’s important to be understanding, patient, and comfortable in caring for that person.

Instructions

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  Learn about autism and what it means in regards to behavior and communication. This will help when the child does something that seems out of the norm. Understand that this, in fact, may be normal for that child. However, remember that all autistic children are not alike. They have different moods, personalities and temperaments, just like anyone else. It’s important to get to know the child, what keeps him calm and happy, or what might trigger a tantrum or meltdown. It’s also important to know how to handle these situations, as they may vary on an individual basis. If you are a teacher, for instance, what works with one child may or may not work with another autistic child. Take time to really get to know that child’s needs.

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  Communication is very important, both with the child and other adults in their lives. Try to find ways to communicate, whether verbal or non-verbal. A PECS (picture exchange communication system) may be helpful in helping them to communicate with you. Some children are verbal, but may not speak in complete sentences, or may speak differently than you are used to hearing. The more you understand their cues, the easier time spent with them will be. It is also important for parents or caregivers to communicate and build relationships with anyone who provides care for the child, whether it’s a teacher, doctor, therapist, sitter, etc. Special diets, medications, and pertinent necessary information should be clearly understood by whoever will have the child in their care. Equally important, parents should be aware of school routines, schedules and lesson plans.

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  Routine and structure are very important in the life of autistic individuals. When their routine is broken, it is often very difficult for them and they may become frustrated or upset. Being in a structured setting and following a schedule is very helpful in the day to day care of an autistic child. This can also help them feel more calm and receptive to learning. Be mindful that autistic children often notice small details that we may not, so the smallest change in routine may be frustrating for them. Be patient when they are being introduced to new changes.

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  An autistic child may not instantly be receptive to you trying to invade his world. He may have a hard time understanding the rules that are set for him. Consider that some behavioral problems may likely be acts of frustration or cries for attention on the behalf of the child. Try to use positive reinforcement to help encourage him to follow rules.

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  Supervision is an important factor that some people may overlook. Some autistic children have no real sense of danger, so they may be more prone to do something or put themselves in an environment that could be dangerous. Don’t just assume that they know better. Keep an eye on them and expect the unexpected at all times. This may seem a little extreme, but it's better to err on the side of caution.

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  Appreciate and praise accomplishments! You will feel a sense of pride and joy in seeing the child work hard to reach goals, and so will he. Make sure that these things, no matter how small they may seem, don’t go unnoticed. Be encouraging and positive!

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  Let a kid be a kid! Find ways to play with him, and allow him to play with other children who are receptive to playing with someone who may behave or play a little differently than they do. Some children with autism really don’t desire to interact much with their peers. While you do want to encourage social interaction, don’t force it. Allow him to play in the manner in which he feels comfortable. If he does want to play with other children, it may be best to explain that the he has special needs, so that the others don’t feel threatened or afraid. Some children with autism don’t respect boundaries or follow rules, or even speak, so it may seem confusing to their potential playmates. However, once they understand the situation, chances are they will alter their play, at least for a while, to include the autistic child.