How to Get a Boyfriend or Girlfriend if You Have Aspergers

Aspergers Syndrome, A.S. for short, is a condition that prevents people from functioning in social settings and causes them to have public outbursts when around crowds. Being able to have relationships with A.S. may seem impossible because your suitor has to understand your condition before accepting you. Learn how to control your A.S. in a relationship by being active in your community.

Instructions

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  Test yourself by going out with friends to see how you respond to being around people. Choose a bar, bowling alley or restaurant because those places contain large crowds. Focus on an activity, such as pool or bowling, to calm your nerves.

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  Throw in some variables to see the results. For example, go to a gym at peak business hours instead of bowling and see how you react to people in a new setting. Keep a journal detailing your progress.

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  Find a friend to practice how you engage the opposite sex. Start with him before venturing in public to see how your A.S. affects your relationship. Role play that he's a stranger you're interested in and practice some ways you might start a conversation. Encourage him to act just as he would if he didn't know you.

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  Go to a bar on a Friday night and become familiar with the atmosphere. Don't approach someone if she doesn't appear willing to talk to anyone, let alone you. Settle on someone that interests you and approach her by buying her a drink or offering to play a game of pool. A simple offer breaks the ice and gives time for conversation.

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  Allow time for idle conversation to pass before telling him you have A.S. Admit to him how uncomfortable you get in social situations like this and ask if he wants to go out on a date with you. Don't always expect a negative answer because your suitor can surprise you. If he accepts, get his phone number and conclude the night on a positive note.