How to Process the Loss of a Pet

The loss of a pet can be just as devastating as the death of an immediate family member or close friend. For some people, the death of a pet can be even more tragic than that of a human. Everyone grieves in his own way and time, but you can take steps to process your grief and move forward after the loss of a pet.

Instructions

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  Hold a memorial service for your pet on your own or with other members of your family. A memorial service can help you say goodbye to your pet and give you closure. Describe the good times you shared with your pet, and even talk directly to your pet. If you desire, buy or make a grave marker for your pet, place it where your pet is buried, and visit the grave site whenever you want to be near your pet.

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  Seek emotional support from friends, family members, fellow pet owners and even from your veterinarian. If you're afraid that those around you won't be understanding, talk with a therapist, grief counselor, attend a pet loss support group or call a pet-loss hot line to talk with someone. Talking to someone who understands is therapeutic because that person can validate your feelings of sadness, helping you to process them.

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  Get proper health, hydration and nutrition following the loss of a pet. Grief can cause restlessness and a loss in appetite, both of which can affect your mood and overall health. Try to eat properly, keep yourself hydrated and get enough sleep.

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  Engage in positive activities that will honor the memory of your pet. Create a photo album, write a story about your pet or journal entry reflecting on how much joy the pet brought to your life, or write a letter to your pet telling it how much you love it. These activities will help you celebrate the life your pet lived rather than focusing on the sadness you feel in the wake of its death.

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  Volunteer your time at a local animal shelter when you feel up to the task. You can be around other animals without feeling like you are replacing the pet that has died. In addition, research has shown that volunteering improves your mood and your overall brain function, according to 2006 article by Camille Noe Pagan in "Prevention" magazine.

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  Get a new pet when you are emotionally ready. Having to adjust to life without a pet can be difficult and so getting a new pet can help alleviate the feeling of loneliness. Wait a minimum of one month before getting new pet in the likelihood you have not worked through all of your feelings of grief.