How Can I Vent My Grief?

Grief is an inevitable part of life. Losing a loved one to death, a common trigger for grief, is a traumatic experience that most individuals go through more than once in their lifetimes. While there are differences in how individuals express and process their grief, there are also similarities. It is necessary to process and express or vent grief in a healthy way to maintain emotional health.

Instructions

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  Talk with your friends and family. They are likely to be experiencing the same grief that you are feeling. Let them know you need support.

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  Tell your friends and family how you need them to respond to prevent your own discouragement. If you just need to vent some thoughts and feelings, tell them you just want them to listen and say supportive things. If you feel lost and are having problems with decision-making, let them know you need their advice. Do not expect others to read your mind and know what you need.

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  Check out grief support groups in your area. Churches, hospitals and hospice agencies typically have grief support groups that meet regularly. Usually these are lead by a professional in health care or the ministry and attended by peers, which gives you the support you need from those who understand how you feel.

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  Make a memory book or box to non-verbally express grief. Write your favorite memories of a loved one. Include photos, memory objects such as movie or event tickets, or scrapbook accessories. Keep positive memories alive, even though they may be painful to think about. Your sadness is a testament to your love.

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  Write a letter to the deceased. This is particularly useful if you had unfinished business with the lost loved one. Write the letter as if that person could actually read it. Say whatever you need to say. If needed and if possible, forgive yourself or the loved one you have lost.

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  Seek professional help if you have tried the previous steps with no or limited success, or if your grief is so severe you are unable to express it in any form. Contact a therapist or clergyman for grief counseling. She can help you find ways to express your grief and develop coping skills.