What Are Some Common Warning Signs That There Is Trouble in a Relationship?

A troubled relationship may stem from a number of problems, including addictions, infidelity, dishonesty or abuse. Resolution of some problems may require mediation; however, resolution of a serious problem, such as abuse, may require counseling coupled with a termination of the relationship. Examine common warnings signs to determine if your relationship is in trouble.

Infidelity

• Marriages and partners change over time; however, abrupt changes in your partner's appearance and personality may indicate infidelity. The unfaithful spouse may become obsessed with personal appearance, and make transformations to appear younger or more attractive, according to psychologist Dr. Betty W. Phillips. Guilt may cause an unfaithful spouse to offer extra special attention or gifts. At other times, the unfaithful spouse may act suspicious or get angry and defensive for no apparent reason. The guilty partner may act very secretive, often guarding cell phones or erasing Internet history on computers.

Dishonesty

• Dishonesty is often the result of trying to avoid conflict. The guilty partner may try to please his spouse by lying about his whereabouts or activities. Because people are driven by their fears of how their partners will receive the truth, they may lie to avoid confrontation. Dishonesty may cause a troubled relationship, as both partners may experience feelings of jealousy, criticism, anger and disappointment.

Addictions

• Addictions draw energy away from a relationship. Not all addictions are as obvious as drug or alcohol abuse -- some are more subtle than others. Destructive addictions include, but are not limited to: Internet, video game, gambling and pornography addictions. When a person develops a pervasive pattern, it prevents her from partaking in the relationship. The partner who is unable to communicate with the addicted person may feel angry, confused or unloved. If the addicted person does not commit to the relationship or seek help, the relationship will crumble, leaving both parties with a minefield of unresolved issues.

Abuse

• While it's true that physical abuse, like being hit, can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars, emotional abuse is just as serious. If your partner steals from you, forces you to have sex or controls where you go and what you do, you're being abused. If your partner threatens to hurt your children or pets if you leave, or threatens to commit suicide, he's abusing you. Abusers attempt to control their victims. If your partner limits your communication with friends and family members or limits your access to money, then you have an abusive partner. If your partner blames you for her own abusive behavior, and you feel emotionally numb and helpless, she is using tactics to manipulate you and exert her power. As a victim, your behavior will not change an abusive relationship. Do not make excuses for your partner. Seek help from a professional.