How to Let a Depressed Guy Know You Care

Depression is a common mental disorder characterized by a bleak outlook on life, decreased energy and loss of interest in hobbies and relationships. If a friend you know is suffering from depression, it is easy to take this negativity personally and wonder why he can't just snap out of his negative feelings. Unfortunately, it isn't that simple. To let a depressed guy know you care, it is important to offer physical and emotional support in a non-judgmental way.

Instructions

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  Read about depression from a reliable source, such as a psychology textbook. This will help you to learn about the symptoms of depression and understand your friend's feelings and behaviors.

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  Support your friend emotionally by spending time with him, listening to what he has to say without passing judgment and asking what you can do to make him feel better. Don't try to talk him out of his feelings, and don't take it personally if he doesn't respond positively to your efforts.

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  Support your friend physically by joining him in low-stress activities such as walking, shopping and watching movies. Help to alleviate some of his stress by helping him run errands, cooking for him or entertaining his kids, if he has any.

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  Make a list of things that trigger his depression as well as things that make him feel better. Check in with him periodically to make sure he is getting enough sleep, eating healthful meals, drinking enough water and getting adequate exercise.

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  Encourage him to find a support system. This can include current friends, family and clergy, as well as a therapist or support group for people with depression. Communicate with mutual friends, and work as a team to support your friend.

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  Take care of yourself to make sure you stay healthy and positive while supporting your friend. Maintain your normal routine, get adequate rest and exercise and attend support meetings for friends and family members of depressed people. Contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness, the National Depressive and Manic-Depressive Association or the Depression and Related Affective Disorders Association for a list of support groups near you.