Advice for the Grieving

Grief is the pain ones feels when a loss occurs. This loss is not confided to the death of a loved one, even though it commonly happens then. Grief can happen anytime that one experiences a profound chance in his/her circumstances, for instance, because of divorce, job layoff, or the last child leaving the nest. It can also happen when a close friends no longer wishes to see you. Everyone experiences grief at some point. It is a natural part of living.

Allow yourself to Grieve

• Give yourself permission to experience your loss; whether it's the loss of a job through downsizing, a friendship through rejection, a divorce, or a loved one' death, don't deny your feelings. Take your time and let the healing occur naturally, as it must. If tears come easily, in the middle of the day, excuse yourself and go cry.

Don't Rush The Process

• Remember that each person grieves differently and for different lengths of time, so be gentle and take it easy: don't rush through your grief work. This will only delay the healing process and make your grieving incomplete. It will crop up again when least expected, unless you take it slow.

Accept Comfort from Your Family and Friends

• Don't go it alone. Let your family help you heal. Invite them over if you don't feel like going out yet. Having loved ones around lifts the spirit even when it doesn't appear to. There love and support heals you in ways that are at first hidden.

See A Doctor If Your Becomes Overwhelming

• Consult a physician and/or psychologist if you feel that your grief is unbearable or intolerable. This feeling might occur at anytime when you're grieving. Seek help whenever you feel the need. Don't tell anyone if you think that they may object to your seeing a professional to help you complete your grief work. You might also find a trusted friend who supports your decision to see a medical doctor and/or therapist.