How to Survive When a Loved One Has Depression

Depression is a mental illness that affects thoughts and mood. A depressed person can damage their relationships and lose their job because of their lack of enthusiasm and general pessimism. If someone close to you is depressed, you may feel like he is pushing you away; alternatively, he may seem clingy, demanding more support than you are able to provide. This may make you feel resentful and angry; at the same time, you may feel obliged to take care of your loved one. Don't forget, though, to take care of yourself as well.

Instructions

How to Cope With Your Loved One's Depression

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  Accept your loved one's feelings. Don't think she can just "snap out of it." Depression is not a passing mood; in fact, a diagnosis of depression cannot be made unless symptoms persist for two weeks or more.

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  Don't feel guilty about your previous ignorance. Before you learned about depression, you may have demanded that your loved one simply on with his life. Now that you know depression is a real illness, however, start dealing with your feelings differently.

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  Stay in contact with friends. Talk to someone every day. Ask your friend about her life; chat about anything other than your depressed loved one. Avoid stress and anxiety by taking part in activities you enjoy.

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  Talk to a doctor or counselor. If you fear that you may be getting depressed yourself, your physician may prescribe an antidepressant. If you want to avoid medication, talk to a counselor. One who specializes in depression can give you behavioral tools to help you cope.

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  Stay active. It's okay, even healthy, to engage in activities that keep your spirits up. Join a book club or find a Meetup activity; play a game of tennis or golf with friends. Staying connected with others who still have a lust for life will keep you from getting dragged into your loved one's depression.