When in AA when do you apologize to the people have hurt?

There are no timeframes of exactly when you should apologize or in what order, for the people you've hurt in Alcoholics Anonymous. Apologizing and making amends is a significant step in the process of recovery and it is important to do it in a way that is most effective and meaningful.

While there are no specific guidelines, it is generally recommended that you apologize as soon as you realize the harm you have caused and when you are in a sober and clear state of mind. This will demonstrate your sincerity and commitment to making things right. As part of the amends process, you should:

- Acknowledge your mistakes: Clearly and honestly admit to the specific ways you have hurt others and take full responsibility for your actions.

- Express sincere remorse: Genuinely apologize for the harm you caused, conveying that you understand the pain and impact of your actions on the other person.

- Make amends to the best of your ability: Make every effort to repair any damage you've caused and take actions to rectify the situation. This may involve returning borrowed items, paying back debts, or seeking restitution if appropriate.

- Seek forgiveness and let go: Humbly ask for forgiveness and allow the person you've harmed to decide whether to grant it or not. Understand that forgiveness may take time and should not be expected. Instead, focus on making things right and moving forward with your recovery.

Throughout this process, it's important to be respectful, non-judgmental, and maintain your sobriety. Avoid making excuses or justifying your actions, and do not engage in confrontational behavior. The amends process should be done with a genuine desire to make amends, without any expectations or conditions attached.

Remember, apologizing and making amends is about taking responsibility for your actions, fostering healing and growth within yourself, and making amends for past mistakes. It can be a challenging process but is essential for your recovery and journey toward sobriety.