How to Break the Cycle of Returning to an Emotionally and Verbally Abusive Husband

When you are in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship, it can sometimes seem as though the only option you have is to stay with the abuser. If you do not find a way to permanently break the cycle, you will perpetuate the pattern of abuse. You have the power to break the cycle and put an end to the abuse for good.

Instructions

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  Enlist the help of family and friends and apprise them of the situation. If you have some form of a support system, it can be easier to get out of and stay away from an abusive situation, and they can remind you why you left in the first place.

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  Change your contact information. After you leave, it is important to change as much about your life as possible. Change your phone number, move to a new home in a new area and, if possible, get a new job. Stay away from familiar places where he may be able to find you. If he is unable to contact you, he won't be able to ask you to come back, and you will have less chance of being tempted to go back.

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  Join a domestic violence support group. It may help you to realize that there are people who know what you are going through because they have been in a similar situation. You can openly share your feelings, and the support group can help you with your objective of staying away from your abusive husband.

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  Seek legal help. A lawyer can help you with a divorce, custody arrangements if children are involved, a restraining order and any other legal matters stemming from an abusive relationship. The sooner you contact a lawyer, the sooner you can move forward with your new life.

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  Consider therapy. An abusive situation can take a huge toll on a person's psyche. Talking to a mental health professional can not only help you realize that you do not need that type of relationship, it can help you understand why you stayed in it and to cope with the aftermath