How to Treat Shyness in Children

Shy children experience discomfort, insecurity and self-consciousness in social situations, according to The Nemours Foundation. Everyone experiences those symptoms at least one time. For some people, though, the feelings of shyness persist through childhood and into adulthood. In cases of extreme shyness, these emotions may interfere with functioning at home and school. The good news is that parents can help alleviate shyness symptoms in their children.

Instructions

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  Ease children into new activities. Forcing them into situations where they feel anxious may backfire, making them feel more anxious.

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  Discuss your child’s feelings. If your child self-criticizes or criticizes others, teach her how to recognize negative thoughts then replace them with more positive, constructive thoughts.

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  Practice social skills. Role-playing can give your children the tools to act more outgoing in social situations. During these practice sessions, run through conversations and small talk.

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  Teach relaxation skills. Meditation and deep breathing techniques help children relax during trying situations. A simple breathing technique involves inhaling for four counts then exhaling for four counts.

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  Encourage resilience. Embarrassment because of a past failure may contribute to shyness, according to the American Psychological Association. Explain that everyone fails sometimes, then motivate your child to try again.

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  Steer away from competitive activities and environments like sports. Too much competition may distress shy children.