How to Express Opinions When Shy

Shyness can be a barrier that prevents people from getting to know the true you, which can result in social isolation or exclusion from important business decisions. You may not be able to change being shy, but you can learn techniques that allow you to express opinions in spite of shyness.

Instructions

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  Prepare your remarks beforehand. Whether you wish to convince your roommate to accept a new cat or ask your supervisor for a raise, honing your remarks beforehand decreases anxiety and takes the edge off your nerves.

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  Preface your opinions with an admission of shyness. You don't have to label yourself as shy, but you can say, "Normally parties make me clam up, but I want to share this with you." Admissions of shyness are human and most people empathize with this feeling.

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  Make eye contact with the kindest person in a group. If speaking to two or more people, avert your eyes from the person who always seems to be giving a stern gaze of censure.

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  Receive the opinions of others as you wish your opinions to be received. If you listen to the opinions of your others with respect and fascination, their warmth and interest in you naturally increases. This atmosphere bolsters self-confidence and reduces shyness.

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  Share your opinions with an online friend. The internet is a boon for shy individuals, providing a non-threatening environment in which to test the waters of social interaction. Use this medium as a test run before sharing your opinion in a face-to-face situation.