How to Live With a Bipolar Partner

It can be difficult to live with a partner diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Bipolar disorder is characterized by cycling moods that can affect behavior and relationships. Learning to support a partner with bipolar will take patience and understanding. It is important to respect personal boundaries and those of your partner while demonstrating care.

Instructions

How to Live with a Bipolar Partner

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  Develop awareness of the symptoms of bipolar disorder. It is important to be able to recognize the difference between manic and depressive mood episodes. Manic symptoms include decreased need for sleep, abnormally high levels of energy and creativity, feeling "on top of the world", flight of ideas, racing thoughts and may include risky behavior (such as gambling or increased spending). Major depression is characterized by irritability, chronic sadness, restlessness, changes in sleep and appetite, low energy levels, negative thinking and may include suicidal thoughts or plans.

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  Offer support for your partner in remaining compliant with treatment. Bipolar disorder is well controlled if medications are taken regularly and consistently. If so inclined, attend doctor's appointments with your partner and offer feedback to the physician. Family reports help to ensure thorough and comprehensive care.

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  Have the patient seek prompt treatment when symptoms, moods or behavior reach a low or a peak. People with bipolar disorder can be at significant risk if the condition is not controlled. Risks include financial ruin, extramarital affairs or suicidal behavior. During a mood episode, people with bipolar disorder have limited insight into the severity of symptoms and behavior. Strong guidance during these times may be necessary.

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  Set appropriate limits and boundaries in the relationship. Recognize that ultimately, the patient with bipolar is responsible for her own treatment. Take care of yourself; identify the need for breaks if necessary. Avoid becoming overly involved and consumed with your partner's dysfunctional behavior during mood episodes.

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  Seek support for yourself if needed. The National Alliance on Mental Illness is a wonderful resource for patients and loved ones. Check the website for local chapter information. Establishing a relationship with a personal counselor may offer additional support and advice on how to cope with the effects of this illness.