How to Stop Aggressive Impulses

Aggressive impulses are a natural response to anger, according to the American Psychological Association. That doesn't mean that people can throw things or punch people when they have a bad day. Still, anger must be expressed. Otherwise, it can cause problems such as high blood pressure or depression. The goal is to express the feelings underneath your anger after you calm down. Life is full of circumstances you can't control, but you can learn to manage your anger.

Instructions

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  Take a deep, diaphragmatic breath and repeat the word, "relax." When you feel angry, repeat those two steps, until you feel less angry. You can also try counting to 10 while breathing deeply.

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  Recognize when your thoughts spiral out of control. If you catch yourself thinking that everything is "ruined," take a deep breath and realize that most things are fixable and anger won't change the situation.

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  Engage in a relaxing exercise like yoga or tai chi, recommends the American Psychological Association. Relaxing your muscles can help your mind relax.

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  Develop solutions to whatever situation is making you angry. Instead of feeling helpless, or trying to bury your anger, doing something proactive about your situation can help you feel better.

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  Identify the root of your anger. Are you really mad that your boyfriend cheated? Or, are you hurt that he doesn't love you as much as you thought? Mayo Clinic suggests using "I" statements instead of you when talking things over. "I am hurt," instead of "You are a horrible person."

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  Talk through the situation once you're calm. Mayo Clinic says it's healthy to talk about the things that make you angry --- just not when you're in the throes of emotion. Write down what's on your mind, so you cover everything. If anger starts to rise, pause, take a deep breath and continue when you're ready.