How to Overcome an Addictive Personality

The term "addictive personality" is used to describe those with a tendency to become dependent on substances or situations. Part of certain addictions, such as alcoholism, is physical dependency. Those with addictive personalities, however, become psychologically dependent. Internet addiction and other technology addictions have become relatively common in the new millennium, joining such longstanding popular addictions as gambling and shopping. If you have an addictive personality, you may suffer from multiple, unrelated addictions. The key to overcoming your addictions is learning to overcome your addictive personality.

Instructions

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  Seek professional counseling. Most personality disorders are deep-rooted and difficult to untangle, sometimes stemming from childhood abuse, neglect or other trauma. Although friends and relatives can help you curb your addictive behaviors, they are not qualified to help you work through major psychological issues. If you are unsure how to find a therapist, begin by speaking with your family doctor. He or she may be able to provide a referral.

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  Enlist a support network. Overcoming an addictive personality is hard work, and having friends or relatives to lean on is vital. Consider joining a formal or informal support group, as well, which allows you to discuss your progress and setbacks with others who are going through the same struggles.

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  Tell those with whom you spend time. Even the most well-meaning friends might accidentally put pressure on you to do things that feed your addiction. There is no need to go into all of the details, but let your friends know that you are unable to participate in certain activities for a period of time. Your therapist can help you decide how and when to disclose your concerns.

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  Resist the urge to cheat. You and your therapist will work together to develop a treatment plan. At times, such as on special occasions or when you are feeling depressed, you may be tempted to "have one little drink" or "just post a note on Facebook." These small slips can feed the addiction, making it even harder to break.

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  Keep yourself busy. Boredom can be extremely difficult for those with addictive personalities. Find constructive, healthy activities to fill your time. Be sure to balance activity with periods of rest and relaxation, or you may run the risk of developing a brand new addiction.

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  Develop a new life plan. Although the short-term goal of therapy is probably to overcome your current addictions without developing any new ones, without an entirely new outlook, relapse is likely to occur. Work with your therapist to develop a new and healthier way of life.