How to Cope with Feeling Abandoned

Abandonment issues can result from a number of failed relationships. These commonly include friendships, relationships with family members and romantic relationships. When you feel as if you were abandoned by someone that you love, your sense of self-worth can be shattered, making it very difficult to understand that you didn't do anything to cause this situation. It is imperative that you work through these feelings in order to be able to trust people again, which is imperative to any new relationships that you form in the future.

Instructions

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  Talk to someone about your abandonment issues. This person can be a friend, counselor, romantic partner or anyone else that you trust. It can be hard to take this step, since you have been hurt in the past, so it's important to choose someone you know will keep your discussion confidential.

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  Learn to come to terms with your abandonment issues through talking them out with this other person. He will provide reassurance that your negative feelings about yourself are untrue. The two of you together can come up with solutions to help you grieve your lost relationship, which will allow you to overcome the pain it caused you.

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  Track your progress in a journal. Start writing at the beginning of your journey of overcoming your abandonment issues, and stay with it. This will allow you an extra outlet to express your feelings. It will also be helpful for you to be able to look back and see how far you have come.

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  Get involved in other activities that you enjoy that make you feel good about yourself. This can be such areas as painting, playing in a community sports league or joining a book club. These activities will serve as a coping mechanism for you to release your negative energy in a positive way.