How to Help People Who are Isolating Themselves

If you have a family member or friend who has begun isolating himself, you are right to worry about this. People who suffer a range of mental illnesses, including depression, addiction and schizophrenia, often withdraw from those closest to them. You need to help this person, and it is crucial that you find out why he is isolating himself. He may not be suffering from a major mental illness but is just stressed because of his circumstances. There are many possible clues. You should explore his behavior, and then choose the most appropriate ways to help him.

Instructions

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  Explore all aspects of this person's attempts to isolate herself. The length of time this has been going on is relevant. AIso, look at her pre-existing personality. She may always have been a loner, or she may have previously been quite gregarious. Observe for any other symptoms of mental illness. You should note any signs of a lowering or flattening in mood, or any positive psychotic symptoms, such as hearing voices or speaking in an irrational manner.

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  Discuss your concerns with him when he seems more relaxed. Be honest, telling him that you have noticed that he is spending more and more time on his own. Ask him if there is something troubling him. Be tactful and patient. Do not pressure him to talk, but encourage him by speaking softly and gently and by showing relaxed body language.

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  Intervene if you feel the person's behavior is worrying. She may, for instance, be spending increasing periods of time in her room. She may even be neglecting her diet, appearance, work or studies. Contact a member of her immediate family, and explain your concerns. If you cannot reach a family member, contact emergency medical services if you are really concerned.