How to Help My Jealousy and Insecurities

Jealousy and insecurity are valid feelings that many people experience throughout their lifetimes. Past situations and stress, such as infidelity within a relationship or finding out that someone dear to you was taking advantage of you, can lead to these feelings of insecurity. You must work hard to find and solve these problems at their root before you can live your life with fewer worries.

Instructions

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  Determine the true cause of your jealousy and insecurities. Understanding the true cause can help you begin to work through your emotions.

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  Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings during the day, so that you can better understand what triggers the negative feelings.

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  Think about why certain situations upset you. Your feelings may be related to past experiences that have left you feeling insecure about yourself, thus leading to jealousy in relationships or in your personal life.

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  Problem-solve to find healthy methods of coping with the underlying issues. Some coping methods for emotional issues include relaxation techniques and positive self-talk; for example, if you feel insecure when talking to a friend, think about ways that you are a good person and should not feel jealous.

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  If the jealousy involves another person in your life, work with that person to find ways to feel more secure and comfortable. Talk to the person so that your feelings are out in the open and you can let her know when you're feeling jealous. If she is acting in a way that is worsening your feelings, alerting her to the issue may make it easier for her to understand and avoid negative actions in the future.

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  Meet with a therapist to talk through your emotions. Getting your emotions out in the open with a professional will help you not only to work through them but also to better understand the feelings you are having.