The Seven Phases of Grief

As you deal with a traumatic experience, you may pass through distinctive emotional stages known as "The Grief Cycle." Originally identified by Swiss doctor Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the seven stages of grief are recognized as a common path for people dealing with loss. Understanding these stages and what to expect during each may help you to cope with such an experience.

Shock

• When you first learn of a tragedy, you may be in utter disbelief. Shock is a feeling of numbness or suspended reality. This coping mechanism helps to protect you from the emotional pain of a tragedy.

Denial

• Sometimes traumatic experiences are so difficult to cope with that you refuse to accept the facts. You may deny the truth in an effort to avoid the inevitable.

Anger

• Once you have come to terms with the tragedy, your first emotional response may be anger. As bottled-up emotions begin to surface, you may lash out and point fingers. You may also direct the anger and frustration at yourself.

Bargaining

• In a vain attempt to resolve your feelings of loss, you may try to bargain with others, yourself or a higher power. For example, you might promise never to drink again or to be a better friend in order to reverse the tragedy.

Depression

• As reality begins to set in, sadness and loneliness will wash over you. You may become reflective and isolated, as you consider the gravity of your loss. During this period, you will be emotionally attached to your grief, and you may linger in the dark melancholy of loss for some time.

Testing

• As you begin to emerge from the darkness of depression, you may test out new approaches for dealing with the tragedy. Now is the time to explore treatment options, support groups or healing time with friends.

Acceptance

• You will begin to feel less emotionally attached to the event as you learn to accept it. You will have a sense of peace and learn to deal with the reality of your situation. With this acceptance comes a new sense of hope and happiness.