How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment

Fear of abandonment is a psychological disorder that causes a person to fear being left to deal with living his or her life alone, according to psychologist Simon Hearn. Fear of abandonment can hit at any age, and it can hit men and women alike. Often the fear will manifest itself after the loss of a loved one or friend, whether the person dies or moves away. While this fear will not be driven away easily, there are steps you can take to help quell it.

Instructions

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  Visit a therapist. Professionals therapists will help you determine the cause of your fear of abandonment. Maybe your dad died when you were 15, your best friend moved away when you were 8 or your wife was killed in the war in Iraq--whatever the case, these things could be the cause of your phobia. A professional will sit and talk you through your fear, helping you realize you are strong enough to move on and to live life successfully on your own.

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  Talk about your fears. If you are clinging to people and they don't know why, it's time to tell them about your fear of losing them. If you can express your fear to your family, friends and loved ones, you will have an easier time talking with them about it. Don't overdo it, though--if you send text messages, wait for a response before sending another. You don't want them to feel smothered.

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  Attend group meetings. Hospitals and wellness centers may host group meetings for people who have lost loved ones and are having a hard time dealing with the loss. Attending these group meetings could help you realize you're not the only one dealing with this kind of situation, while at the same time helping you talk about your own fears of abandonment.

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  Play sports. Listen to music. Read a book. Do anything that you can that will help occupy your time and keep your mind off of the person you fear will abandon you. By keeping yourself and your mind busy, you will grow as a person, and you will learn patience.

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  Write it out. You can make lists or keep a journal; whatever you do, writing could help you express your feelings without overwhelming those you are afraid will abandon you. By writing your fears down, you're getting them out of your head, which in turn will help you keep your mind off your fears even when you're with the people you're afraid of losing.