How to Explain Borderline Personality Disorder to a Loved One

Borderline Personality Disorder is a bio-social disorder that affects a person's emotional development. It is characterized by emotional deregulation, and those who suffer from BPD often exhibit poor interpersonal skills, poor emotional cognition and self-harming behavior.

In explaining this disorder to a loved one, it is important to emphasize that it can be controlled and that the person can lead a normal life while dealing with the illness. Thus, the tone and course of explanation become very important for both the sufferer and his family and friends.

Instructions

The Approach Means Everything

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  Approach the family members of sufferers of Borderline Personality Disorder gently. There have been many misconceptions about the functional ability of sufferers that suggest they have no hope of a normal life. This is decidedly untrue, which should be established right from the start.

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  Offer a basic summary of what personality disorders are and how they affect a person. The explanation should also include an honest presentation about the symptoms of BPD, which include a propensity toward poor interpersonal relationships, inconsistent behaviors, self-harming behavior and an unstable self-image. Explain that these impulsive acts and behaviors can lead to depression, irritability and anxiety in the patient.

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  Explain how to be supportive of those who suffer from BPD. Stress encouraging the person to avoid specific behaviors, as well as checking and encouraging medication. Explanations of medications can also help loved ones both understand the illness and be of support to the sufferer.

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  Encourage loved ones to seek out support groups for those who live with patients, and point them toward Internet resources about the illness. Remind them that, the more they educate themselves, the more they can understand and be helpful to their loved one.

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  Be positive in making the explanation. With the proper treatment and medications, in conjunction with therapy and family support, most sufferers of BPD can live fully functional lives. It is important to let loved ones know that the illness is controllable.