How to Deal With Borderline Personality Disorder

It is challenging to live with people who suffer from borderline personality disorder (BPD). They fear rejection and continually try to avoid abandonment, whether real or imagined. Although the disease can strike anyone, more than 75 percent are women. With a history of unstable and intense relationships, they have low self image and often are candidates for suicide and extreme behavior. Try these ideas to keep your life focused while trying to help someone you love.

Instructions

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  Know that scientists believe both environment and genetics play a role. A dysfunctional childhood may also be a contributing factor.

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  Get professional help for the patient. Borderline personality disorder is a complicated disease. Never try to diagnose or self-treat.

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  Treat the patient with love and respect, but don't give in to every whim. Don't let yourself be manipulated. Patiently and gently point out inappropriate behaviors.

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  Explain the disease to friends and family members, who are frequently around the borderline person. If they know what's going on, they will be much more likely to react with compassion rather than criticism. Borderline personalities may act dramatically different around others to the point where some family members won't believe there is a problem.

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  Expect others to tire of being around a borderline. These patients are demanding and needy individuals. They are usually inconsistent.

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  Put everything in perspective, and don't give up on having a quality life. People with borderline personality disorder are draining, but you have needs too. Find healthy friendships that will give back to you. Don't sacrifice your quality of life.