How to Break Out of Self Isolation

Isolating yourself can lead to a depressing and lonely life and sends a message to others that you need assistance, even though you are trying to do the opposite. Having friends and family around you is important to your health and well-being, regardless of what you are feeling. Isolating yourself can perpetuate the negative feelings that led you to withdraw in the first place. Learning how to break out of self-isolation can be achieved by following a few simple steps.

Instructions

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  Make a commitment to end your isolation and ask for the support of at least one or two family members or friends who can check in with you regularly, and who will be there for you when times get tough.

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  Start small. Self-isolation can be a hard habit to break; plan small steps and goals to achieve results. Write a letter to an old friend or phone him to talk. Keep the conversation short and light and make a commitment to talk again soon. Schedule a time and date for a future call so you won't be tempted not to call back or make an additional connection.

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  Get out of the house. Maintain social activities, even if you don't feel like it. Take a walk, go to the library or park, or run errands. This will get you around other people and help you break the pattern of staying home alone. Being around others can help you remember how enjoyable it is to talk with someone, or even how uplifting it is to smile and say hello.

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  Join a group for a particular interest, such as coin collecting or painting, or join a gym. When you are with others with a common interest, you have an instant conversation starter. Joining a club or organization also provides a standing date and time to get out of the house. Look for volunteer opportunities at church, local social service agencies or other community service groups that interest you. Helping others in need allows you to shift your focus from your loneliness.

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  Create a plan to keep you from falling back into self-isolation. Read from a list of positive affirmations that you create to keep you on track. Develop a "wellness toolbox" -- a list of things you can do that will lift your mood, and in turn make you feel like engaging with others.