How to Fire a Therapist

When you go to a therapist for counseling, it can become a very peculiar relationship. There are certain things you need from your therapist. These necessities include compassion, understanding and knowledge. When these needs aren't met, it's time to fire your therapist. You can find someone else. When you have spent a great deal of time allowing your therapist to know your innermost secrets, it can be a very painful and difficult process to say goodbye. It is possible, though. You have to do what's right for you.

Instructions

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  Do some soul searching. Make sure it's the right decision to fire your therapist. Sometimes therapists tell us things we don't want to hear. If the observations are valid, facing the issue--instead of firing your therapist--is the best option. On the other hand, it becomes blatantly obvious when the relationship isn't working. The process will be much easier if you do it with confidence and self-assurance.

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  Schedule a final appointment. You should have some closure when the relationship comes to an end. If you are parting on good terms with your therapist, you may get some good advice during your final session. If you're parting on bad terms, however, this is a good time to tell the therapist why the relationship has to end. You may feel empowered as you leave the office.

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  Be prepared for resistance from your therapist. Not only do some therapists develop attachments to patients, but losing you as a client is also a financial loss for the therapist. Some therapists may face disciplinary action from bosses if they lose too many clients. You shouldn't assume that a final session with your therapist will be an easy task. Prepare yourself for your therapist to try to talk you out of leaving. Have your reasons figured out in your head so you have a defense strategy.

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  Request copies of anything you want to take with you, such as diagnostic test results or intake reports. There is no reason why a therapist should be reluctant to give you copies of any of these documents. If your therapist promises to mail copies to you, follow up in a week if you haven't yet received the copies. Don't expect your therapist to give you original copies or to destroy your file completely upon your departure.

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  Give your therapist contact for your new therapist if appropriate. The therapist you fire may have some valid insights into your situation, and oftentimes therapists are willing to consult with other therapists. If you absolutely detest the therapist you're firing, or if there are any other bad feelings associated with the therapist, then don't feel as though you are required to give contact information for a new therapist.