How to Vent Your Problems

In construction work, a vent is an outlet for smoke, noxious fumes or stale air. Like this essential building feature, emotional venting relieves a buildup of the negative emotions that poison your mood. Ignoring or suppressing feelings can raise your blood pressure and push you closer to an emotional breaking point. Whether you vent to friends, family or even an empty room, use the opportunity to let your true feelings flow and relieve the immediate tension. Once you are more clear-headed, you can work through your feelings calmly and focus on rational solutions to your problems.

Instructions

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  Acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to experience them fully. Denying or repressing bad feelings can lead to later flare-ups. Remember that it is healthy and normal to feel angry or hurt.

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  Reflect on the causes of your feelings. In the heat of the moment, the specific problems that are upsetting you may not be clear. Weigh the issues and connect them to your own thoughts. Recognize factors that may have an effect on your emotional state, such as fatigue and stress. Know your own tendencies and weaknesses. For instance, if you have a quick temper, be aware that your agitation will decrease and provide yourself time accordingly.

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  Talk to someone about your problems. Vent to a sympathetic listener, such as a friend or family member not involved in the issue. By choosing a disinterested party, you avoid creating an awkward situation for the other person. Express yourself clearly without escalating the situation. Let your emotions flow over a cup of tea, a friendly lunch or another low-stress gathering.

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  Divert energy into a constructive task. In a 2008 study from Boston College, psychologists found that people recover better when they focus on positive emotions through drawing. If you are artistically minded, channel your energy into a painting, drawing or sculpture. Regardless of artistic talent, anyone can use his emotions to fuel enjoyable work or a favorite hobby. Anger or frustration can give you energy to exercise, which burns calories while improving your mood.