How to Handle Anger and Avoid Getting Revenge

Anger is a natural emotion which can stem from feeling threatened or stressed. It's also natural to feel angry if someone hurt you, emotionally or physically. Angry feelings can easily give rise to revenge fantasies. However, there are tactics you can use to manage anger in the heat of the moment, as well as after the fact. Learn how to handle anger and avoid getting revenge, to prevent yourself from doing something that you might later regret.

Instructions

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  Take five deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Picture yourself blowing the anger out of your body. This can help you calm down and gain control of your emotions, rather than allow them to control you.

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  Write about your anger and desire for revenge. Do so on your computer, in a journal, or on a piece of paper. Describe your emotions in detail and how you would exact revenge. The simple act of writing about your thoughts and feelings can provide much emotional relief.

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  Diffuse anger with humor. One of the best ways to assuage your anger is through laughter. Imagine a funny situation that you witnessed or a funny scene in a movie. If you're at home, watch a funny sitcom or comical movie.

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  Talk with a family member or friend. Telling your angry thoughts to someone who you trust can be very cathartic. Ask the person for anger management tips and strategies.

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  Make yourself wait one day to react. If you are dead-set on getting even, tell yourself that you must wait at least 24 hours to do anything. By that time, you may not be as angry and may be less likely to act on your vengeful feelings.