How to Not Be a Drama Queen

Most people are acquainted with a drama queen -- someone who turns the slightest problem or snag into a disaster of epic proportions. Instead of sowing seeds of peace and harmony, the drama queen has a major meltdown with minimal provocation. If anyone has ever called you a drama queen, you might want to examine your behavior and modify your reactions to fit the situation at hand.

Instructions

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  Practice keeping things in perspective. Even though it's annoying when you break a nail 10 minutes after you paid for a manicure, it isn't the end of the world. It isn't on the same level as having your house repossessed, being diagnosed with cancer or finding out that your spouse is cheating on you. Realize that things could be much worse.

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  Employ cognitive behavioral techniques. Usually just before you have a major meltdown, certain thoughts precede the action. Notice what thoughts are in your mind before and during your next tantrum. Replace negative thoughts like "This is the end of the world," "What am I going to do now?" and "Why does everything go wrong for me?" with positive thoughts like "This is not a big deal," "I can handle this problem easily" and "Everyone has problems but what counts is how they deal with them."

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  Use positive visualization to picture a happy outcome to every situation. Instead of flying off the handle, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and imagine the outcome you'd like for this situation. Rather than picturing doom and gloom, picture the sales clerk happily making the exchange without a receipt, see your mother welcoming you with open arms despite your recent tiff and imagine yourself giving your next work presentation without a hitch.

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  Realize that your behavior often embarrasses and annoys others. Being a drama queen often gives the impression that you think you are the only one who counts. Even if this is not the way you really feel, others might think that you do. Ask yourself if this is the impression you want to give and if it isn't, tone your behavior down to fit the situation.

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  Practice acting your age. While a 3-year-old drama queen might be cute up to a point, a 43-year-old drama queen isn't. Study the behavior of your friends, family and coworkers when they are confronted with an unpleasant or disappointing situation. Notice those who handle problems in a calm and collected manner and practice modeling their behavior the next time "disaster" strikes.