Directions for Resolving Inconsistency

Problems with inconsistency are regular and perhaps not very distressing problems for many people. Their peers, on the other hand, may be fed up with a friend or family member who exhibits inconsistent and possibly inconsiderate behavior. While it may appear from the outside that an inconsistent individual is simply selfish, he may not even be aware he has a problem. The most basic solution should involve a regimen of self reflection and planning.

Instructions

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  Reflect on your inconsistent behavior. Your behavior may involve emotional inconsistency in a relationship, inconsistency in keeping appointments and arriving on time or sticking to your word and keeping promises. Make a list of comments from friends, family and colleagues.

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  Explain to your friends, family members and spouse that you do not intend disrespect with your behavior. Rather, you should let them know that it is not always within your control and that you often are not aware of your inconsistencies.

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  Devise a strict schedule and regimen to combat your inconsistencies. Create a calendar with specific events, goals and time schedules. Start small with a few events over a week or two and increase your goals.

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  Arrive at events early or on time. Remind yourself with notes. Get ready early and arrive before you normally would to combat time inconsistencies.

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  Keep track of the promises you've made to others. Fulfilling promises can be as simple as doing a favor for someone or as important as keeping a secret or spending more quality time with a loved one.

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  Discuss specific improvements your family and friend would like to see in your behavior. After you've attempted to improve upon these points, reassess your progress both from your perspective and theirs.

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  Seek counseling for a direct solution to your problems. According to "Behavior Modification: Principles and Procedures" by Raymond G. Miltenberger, "Behavior is lawful; that is, its occurrence is systematically influenced by environmental events." Often inconsistent behavior is tied to a childhood event or possibly a chemical imbalance.