How to Stop Thinking Like a Victim of Bullying

Many people have been the victims of bullying at some point in their lives. Bullying takes place in many areas of life, from school to work to home. If you suspect that you have been the victim of bullying too many times, you may feel the need to look deeper into this, even questioning whether there is something about you that makes you a victim. The last thing you should do is to blame yourself, but it is wise to look at some aspects of your behavior as you determine not to think like a victim. Alternatively, you may have only been bullied once, but feel that this event looms too large in your life.

Instructions

• 1

  Walk tall and confidently. Maintain appropriate eye contact when you speak to others. Bullies tend to try out various potential victims. If they are met with a solid wall, they back off. Resolve to meet bullying behavior with that solid wall. You do not have to shout or be aggressive, but make it clear that you are not going to be a victim.

• 2

  Surround yourself with friends and allies. If you are in school, then ignore the group of bullies. If you are being bullied at work, concentrate on being the best worker you can be, and on building good relationships with other colleagues. Be open in your dealings with others. Bullies rely on secrecy. If you are prepared to speak openly about bullying, they are unlikely to see you as a victim.

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  Build your confidence in other areas of your life. Spend time on what you are good at doing. This will improve your self-esteem. Victims usually have low levels of self-esteem. Consider attending self-defense classes or assertiveness training. Intervene if you see that others are being bullied. This marks you as a person who is prepared to make a stand and who is not a victim. This will help others and will improve your confidence.