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Types of Encouragement

Who at some point in their life has not needed encouragement? Whether you are on the receiving or giving end, encouragement can be the thread that sometimes holds us together when the going gets tough. Individuals are unique and require different kinds of encouragement. Knowing how to give the right type of encouragement to a friend going through a crisis situation can be critical.

  1. Gestures

    • Encouragement sometimes comes in the simplest form. We all remember times when feeling blue and the smallest gesture of encouragement helped brighten our day. A smile, a wave or a light "pat on the back" can say what we sometimes cannot find the words to say. Let someone know you are aware of her presence, send positive reinforcement and show concern with her well-being. All of this can come from just a smile.

    Listening

    • Really listening to someone sometimes seems to be a lost art. People who are in crisis might need to "get if off their chest." Letting a friend talk and release his emotions may be all he needs to feel encouraged. Do not interrupt to inject your own feelings and advice on the situation; offer only if asked.

    Positive Words

    • In your conversation with your friend who is feeling down, use positive words. Don't use phrases like "you can't" or "you shouldn't." Try "You will feel better," or "you can do this." Negativity reinforces bad feelings. Shedding a positive light on a negative situation will sometimes give the encouragement needed to overcome difficult situations.

    Be Truthful

    • Lying is never helpful. Telling a friend her marriage will "get better" when you know it is highly unlikely is only prolonging a bad situation. If there is a truthful statement that needs to be made, in the best interest of your friend, you should find the most tactful way to tell her. Do not force your opinion upon your friend, but when asked for advice, be truthful.

    Extra Effort

    • Take a little extra effort to notice your friend; this will do much to encourage her. Go out of your way to drive by her house on your way home from shopping and say hello. Drop him an email just to say "hello" and "I am thinking of you." Sometimes, on a blue day, knowing someone is thinking of her may be all the encouragement your friend needs to have a happy day.

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