How to Not Be Needy
Sometimes relationships with partners and friends end because one person in the equation is too needy. This clingy behavior can manifest in the form of excessive contact through e-mailing, texting and phone calls as well as a constant need for approval. End your needy ways and change your relationships by building confidence in yourself and learning that self-acceptance and self-love are rarely found through the approval of others.Things You'll Need
- A great mental capacity.
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Spend time with your other friends and family members to ensure that you are not focusing all your energy on one person. Avoid making a particular friendship or relationship the center of your universe.
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Find an outlet that will build your self-confidence and help you to end your need to find your own self-worth in the approval of others. Explore a new hobby or talent. Take up painting, join a yoga class or begin writing a novel.
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Plan dates, outings and vacations based upon your own interests and curiosities. Stand up for yourself and make your voice heard in your relationships. This will remind you and your loved ones that you are a complete person who does not need constant approval from others.
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Turn off your cell phone and house phone when your significant other goes out with his or her friends. Resist the temptation to call your partner every five minutes when you are apart. Give your partner some space to avoid appearing too needy.
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Write down three to five positive things about yourself every day. Remind yourself that you are beautiful, smart, funny, sincere, reliable and trustworthy. This will build your self-confidence, which will help you rely on yourself for support, rather than constantly leaning on others.
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Look for the root cause of your neediness. Speak to a mental health professional or take a voyage of self-reflection to discover why you are so needy. Take your time when attempting to uncover your own truth and do not make the exploration about anyone else.
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