How to Resolve Control Issues

You may be one of those people who constantly needs to be in charge. You have a difficult time letting others work on projects, and people continually advise you to lighten up and trust others. Wanting to manage your own life is normal. However, hen you need to exert power over those around you as well, you should step back and learn to resolve your control issues.

Instructions

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  Let go of your fear of the unknown. Allow yourself to let someone else plan a date or pay bills for a day and see that it's possible to trust others to do things. Start slow. Surrender a little control at a time. Ask your friends and family to be patient as you learn to let go of things.

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  Realize your family and friends are different from you. They may have their own way of doing things, but they can be just as effective as you. Let others decide for themselves how to live their lives.

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  Talk to others about issues and topics that interest them. Work on listening and contributing to the conversation.

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  Share. Allow others to hold your baby, eat your food or plan events with you. It may seem simple, but sharing your life with others allows them to feel closer to you and ultimately more satisfied with the relationship.

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  Trust. Allow your teenagers to go out and trust that they can come home at a reasonable time without your intereference. Set rules to follow but allow your children or significant other to show you they can be trusted.

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  Ask for help in sharing responsibility. Recognize that you don't have to do it alone Others will helpy you with chores and tasks if you allow them. Let go of the need to excel at everything.