How to Deal With Separation Anxiety

Although most children must undergo separation anxiety to establish their own independent personalities, it can be unsettling for everyone involved. Follow these steps to deal with this stressful time.

Instructions

• 1

  Help the child become comfortable with people and surroundings by visiting the child-care center, church nursery or gym nursery a few times before leaving them.

• 2

  Allow the child to take along a favorite stuffed animal or blanket for comfort. Even if it must be left in the backpack, knowing it is there is often helpful.

• 3

  Arrange play dates with some of the other children in class prior to leaving your child. This will help you build your child's excitement about seeing their new friends again.

• 4

  Never sneak out of the room. Although it might seem like a good idea at the time, it will only cause distrust and more distress when the child realizes you are gone.

• 5

  Never mock the child's separation anxiety. Do not scold the child in front of others for being scared and upset. Remain calm and let your child know that he will be taken good care of and be safe.

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  Focus on the positive things. Do not let them dwell on fears of what could happen. Be reassuring and realistic.

• 7

  Try not to leave your child when they are tired or hungry. Try to schedule departures after mealtime or naps if possible.

• 8

  Reassure your child that you will be back. Explain how long it will be in concepts they will understand, such as after snack time or recess.

• 9

  Come down to their level and give your child your complete attention when saying goodbye, without lingering too long.

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  Say goodbye and mean it. Coming back only refuels the notion that maybe you will not leave them after all. Once you say goodbye, do not return until the time you promised.