How to Cope With Mental Abuse

Mental or psychological abuse erodes a person's confidence, sense of self and feelings of worth. The abuser may use fear, intimidation, humiliation and manipulation to maintain control over his victim. Additionally, he may limit access to friends and family, creating isolation and loneliness. While abuse can happen to men, women and children, according to the National Crime Victim Survey, in approximately 85 percent of abuse cases, women are the targets.

Instructions

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  Understand your rights. All humans have natural rights in any relationship. These rights include emotional support, unique opinions, courtesy from others, respect and apologies when offense is given. People also have the right to live without threats. Additionally, there are legal rights that offer a measure of protection from mental abuse. You can file a criminal charge if your abuser is making threats. Local police departments can offer guidance as to the legal options available.

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  Maintain outside relationships. One tactic of mental abusers is to create isolation by limiting a person's friendships and family interaction. The abuser may use jealous accusations as an excuse to monitor the victim's every move. In order to cope with such a difficult circumstance, it is vital to stay connected to other people who are supportive. This helps a person maintain a sense of balance and self-worth. It also provides a support system for when the victim is ready to leave an abusive situation.

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  Identify resources. There are many programs supported by local government for victims of domestic violence. Mental abuse is a form of domestic violence and may escalate into physical violence. Counseling groups can provide needed encouragement and resources. There are also certified batterer treatment specialists if the abuser is willing to get help.

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  Establish safety. Victims of mental abuse need a safe place to go in case they need to flee from an abusive situation. This place could be the home of a friend or family member, a hotel or a shelter. Having a safety plan is vital in the case of a rapid departure. If a situation escalates into an emergency, call 911.

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  Seek counseling. There are many reasons that people stay in a mentally abusive situation, including economic dependence, social stigma and fear. Counseling can help a person understand those reasons, sort through issues and maintain a sense of self-worth. It may also give a person the needed strength to end a mentally abusive relationship.