How to Find a Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been raped or sexually abused, having support available can help you heal from the trauma. Rape is never your fault, and survivors do not need to hide their feelings or suffer alone. Survivors need to do more than deal with the rape; it is important to reclaim your life and break the silence so you can avoid isolation. Finding the right support group can be overwhelming, but it can be an important part of healing.

Instructions

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  Remember that you are not alone and that other people have experienced similar events. It is important to tell a close friend or family member who will be supportive so that you can talk about your experience and start to make strides towards healing the emotional pain of rape. Support is available and you can find what will be available in your community.

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  Look through online clearinghouse lists (see Resources, below) for rape support groups, including in the United States, Canada, and abroad. Clearinghouses provide lists of support groups for a wide range of topics, including abuse, domestic violence, rape, and other areas. Many local organizations, such as the United Way, also have lists.

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  Contact local churches, an area hospital or doctor's office to see what recommendations they have to find a rape support group. Sometimes, having a personal recommendation from someone you trust can help you feel more comfortable.

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  Contact the leader of the rape support group to inquire about the purpose of your group, how often they meet, and find out more about the structure of the meeting.

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  Make sure that the group that you plan to attend is an open support group, or if it is closed, that they have an opening available. Some rape support groups limit the number of attendees.

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  Arrive on time to avoid being disruptive to the meeting and give yourself a few minutes to talk with others. Getting to know others can make you feel more at ease and give you the opportunity to see if it is the right group for you.

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  Try a couple of support groups to find out what structure works well for you. It may take a few different groups to find a well informed facilitator and to ensure that you are a good fit.

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  Share your story. Becoming comfortable in the support group may take a little time, but it is important to share your experience to not only heal, but also make connections that can help you make strides to overcome anger, depression, and other emotions that you will encounter during the recovery process. It is normal to be nervous about sharing, but it is important to remember that you can take control by speaking out about abuse.

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  Attend the support group sessions regularly to get the most out of the meetings.