How to Build Respect & Stop Bullying

Bullying not only affects the victims, but the bullies, as well. In most cases, counseling or therapy is necessary to overcome the emotional trauma caused by bullying. Because bullying is such a widespread problem, it takes a combined effort from both families and school systems to discourage bullying and build respect among youth.

Instructions

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  Determine if a child or youth is a victim. If a child or youth seems to be disconnected from family and friends, has developed physical ailments such as head and stomach aches that interfere with daily life, or is suddenly struggling with schoolwork, reach out and encourage him or her to open about any problems. Bullying is likely the problem.

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  Determine if a child or youth is a bully. A child or youth who is bullying others will display aggression and will be physically or verbally abusive to others, particularly those perceived as being weaker. Boys are more physically abusive, while girls are more verbally abusive. Both forms of bullying are equally damaging, and neither should be ignored.

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  Stop the bullying. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or even a witness, you can make a positive difference by standing up and letting the bully know that what he or she is doing is wrong. Be assertive, but not aggressive. If you're a witness, you might be more comfortable reporting the bully to an adult, such as a parent or teacher, especially if you feel that it might be unsafe to confront the bully on your own.

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  Support the victim if you're uncomfortable confronting the bully, or if you're a parent or teacher, encourage students to comfort the victim. Strong friendships can help protect children and youth from bullying; all it takes is an invitation to join in a game of sports or similar gesture.

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  Reduce the attention focused on episodes of bullying. If you're a witness, simply walk away. According to a study published in the Journal of Adolescence, episodes of bullying last longer when there is an audience involved. If you're a parent or teacher, discourage children and youth from watching episodes of bullying.

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  Use dramatic theater and peer teaching to build respect. Schools have been integrating a variety of improvisation and role playing exercises into their curricula to help students develop cognitive and emotional intelligence, which enables students to empathize and understand the causes and effects of bullying.